A brief hiatus from Late Afternoons
allowed me to fully enjoy the most perfect
Late Afternoon in a while…
my sister Sheila’s wedding.
Our families are still coming off the high from the amazing, memorable and happy celebration
that accompanied the nuptials of my younger sister and her new husband.
It was perfect…
The love and excitement radiating off of the newlyweds was contagious
and I think every single person there shared in the amazingness that was their day.
In honor of their new chapter,
I thought I would share Mary and my toast
in an effort to relive the day one more time!
An ode to two of our favorites…
on their unforgettable day.
S: Good evening everyone- for those of you we have yet to meet, my name is Sara and I am Sheila’s older sister.
But among most of Sheila’s friends and inner circles, I’m known as “socca mom”
– it’s a title I’ve come to love and embrace.
M: And my name is Mary, I’m the youngest, and I like to the think, the favorite Catanzarita, but after looking around today at this gorgeous celebration
– it seeeems Sheil may be giving me a serious run for my money.
We’ll regroup to discuss after this, JCat.
S: Before we begin, we’d like to thank our parents, John and Meg Catanzarita along with Colleen, Casey and Mike O’Malley,
for working together to put on this amazing weekend. On a campground in beautiful Skaneateles, you’ve created this perfect celebration of love and the excitement
and I think I speak for everyone when I say, the happiness is contagious for everyone here.
M: Many of you, who know us as sisters, know that we’re kindaaa close.
We tend to know everything about each other; sometimes to a fault and usually alarm those around us with our fierce loyalty to one another (just ask all of our ex-boyfriends).
Brady, as you know, we consider ourselves experts on your beautiful new bride and we decided it was time to pass our acquired “Sheila knowledge”
on to you in the form of some Sheila “DO’S and DON’Ts”. These will prove to be extremely resourceful in life, trust us.
You ready? Good.
1.) DO know you’re stuck with us…which I’m sure you’ve already caught on to, but we’re kind of a package of three.
Mike will be a good ally to you in this new journey, but if you feel as if you need any tips on how to survive all of us – just ask J-Cat.
His answer will likely be golf and/or the occasional Dewars. Rest assured, you will soon learn to love both.
This next one is a really important one, so listen close:
2.) DON’T touch her piles of clothes. The word piles may be troubling to you, we know and understand…
but trust me, there will be piles, they do serve a purpose in her mind and you should resign yourself to the fact they are not to be moved.
Not an inch to the left or right, not ever. Movement equals severe repercussions. Don’t say we didn’t warn you.
3.) DO know that Sheila is fiercely loyal. She will be your biggest advocate, your very best friend and new other half.
She is the only person you’ll ever need on your team and will always be on your side, even if you are wrong.
Unless you move her pile of clothes, in which case, you are shit out of luck.
4.) DON’T be alarmed if post-its of “lists” cover your kitchen counters. She writes them, will tell you what they say,
ask you to commit them to memory for future reference and then write another list to remind her to check back in with you on the previous lists.
Did you follow that?
Don’t worry – we’re still trying to figure it out ourselves. In this particular case, if you have any tips for us on this, let’s re-group after we’re done here.
5.) DO know Sheila does just about anything she sets her mind to.
Job at MTV, check…Korean adventure, check…
deciding she was going to marry you the night you absolutely crushed your best man’s toast at Maura and Grazi’s wedding? CHECK!
6.) DON’T worry if she throws out “you’re a psycho and everyone knows it”. She doesn’t mean it… and it’s a statement of love.
In fact, show of hands… how many people here have had Sheil throw that their way a few times over the years? Yep, pretty much all of her closest people.
Do not fear Brady, it just means she loves you enough to challenge your opinion in the moment. But, she doesn’t mean it. Nobody thinks it and it will pass in a matter of 4 minutes…
…maybe 5…5 tops.
7.) DON’T be overly worried when she comes to you and tells you that she is dying of a rare disease…
or, if a brain eating amoeba is discovered in South Florida and she wonders if she has it because she visited there when she was 3.
She’s simply being proactive in self-diagnosing. In fact, she has self-diagnosed herself with middle child syndrome many years ago and believes it to be a real thing…
we’ll let you be the judge on that.
8.) DO know you are marrying our other 1/3. She is our very best friend, one of the single most important people in the world to us.
She’s our person. Please handle with care.
On that same note, Sheil, DO know by marrying Brady, he now becomes another of the most important people in our lives.
He’s one of our favorite guys and, as you know, we do not give that title out lightly…he’s our new 5th and we really like him.
Please handle with care in return.
9.) DO know we think the world of you, Brady.
You complete Sheila in a way we can’t begin to explain and it seems to us that you have been her “happily ever after” for as long as we can remember.
We truly cannot imagine anyone better suited for her and we feel like the luckiest gals in the world to have you as our brother.
S: Sheil, I’ve had the privilege of watching you grow up for 26 years.
I know I’m the oldest but half the joy of being in that role is learning from the magic your younger sisters create for themselves and in turn, bring to your life.
Watching you walk down the aisle today, I had goosebumps of pride and excitement in knowing you were walking towards someone who is your perfect match.
I love you so much and cannot wait to see what happens in your amazing story next.
M: Sheil, I may be the youngest, but I like to think I have a lot of wisdom under my belt from the path you and Sar have paved for me.
You let me share your college, your friends and now, your wedding day with you and standing here today I can say with confidence that I know you’ve found your #1.
You and Sar will always be my #1 but if we have to make room for a few more – I’d say you both hit the nail on the head.
S: SO… Brady, as you can see, we’ve seen her at her worst, and we’ve seen her at her best… but through the years we have never seen her as happy as she is when she’s with you.
M: Please join us in raising a glass to toast our sister and very best friend and her new husband, Brady.
photo credit: Kate Martin, Annie Anderson, Claire Martin and Tracy Koval